We are all so distracted. You glance at the phone during our meeting. 

When was the last time you gave something your full attention? 

By that I don't mean focusing your mind. That just means pushing your distraction to the edges. It is still there. But now also there's tension.

It's hard to live while stealing glances to the side.

Step one might be to undo the labels. 

Just to look, without naming the thing. To just be with the thing. To grok it.